My mind is a hum with the juggle that is life these days. There’s the book coming out in two and half months (!), the book that will need to be written this year, not to mention laundry overflowing (I swear dirty clothes procreate while in the hamper) and a headache that’s been clinging to my front lobe for four days now.
I know the quickest answer to tackling all that is on my plate is to just breathe. I’ve never been one known for patience, though, and at this stage of the age game I wonder if my spots are even capable of changing. Still, every morning I wake and do my best to keep myself in check. I tell myself to stop questioning the things that have no logical answer—like why did your husband and best friend drop dead when you went out for groceries, or why did it have to happen while he was teaching your daughter to ride her bike?
I remind myself to focus on what I have accomplished, not just in these 18 months, but in the scope of my life thus far. Try, remind, and then repeat…that is how this week is going so far. I don’t know why this week is proving more challenging, but by time I get the girls off to school, all I really want to do is go back under the covers.
My drive and determination is one of my biggest assets, but it can be my downfall too, if I don’t keep reminding myself where I came from and where I’ve come to. Sometimes, I want to get to the finish line before I’ve even laced up my shoes. It’s not that I don’t want to put in the hard work. It’s just that I know I’m capable and can do the work. This ridiculous pressure I put on myself has been louder, heavier, since Michael died. I’m constantly looking in the rearview mirror of life, terrified it will end at any minute, leaving too many things undone. Too many dreams and desires not realized.
I’m getting tired of running from my fears, so it’s time to face them.
I am going to die. It’s true.
Everyone I love is going to die, one day. That is the truth, as harsh as it is to write.
But, I am alive right now. Many people I love are still alive. And even the moment air ceases to coarse through my lungs, it doesn’t mean I will cease to exist. Michael may be gone, but he is alive in ways death can’t dig its clutches into—in my heart, in my recipes, in the dark chocolate eyes of his daughters. Death was only the end of the physical part of his story. The rest is still waiting to be told.
Beautiful, just like you. And, it’s never too late for a little Spot Change, so breathe.;)
Rose D'Angelo Frenchtown, NJ
Absolutely true and from the heart…
As always, that was so very beautiful and you help me to keep going….xoxoxoxo
Maria in NJ
Good Morning Jennie,
My morning treat to go along with my coffee.Your blog!
Breathe in, breathe out.Inhale, exhale. Repeat after me…..I am doing great. You are. Believe it……..
Hugs, rainbows and heavenly smiles,
Oh, Jennie! I wish I could give you a hug! This is “the plodding time” — just keep putting one foot in front of the other…
Yes we will all die one day it’s what we do while we live that matters.
Beautiful heartfelt post!
Betty Ann @Mango_Queen
What a beautiful, inspiring post. Thanks for sharing this. You have been in my thoughts. I hope this coming year brings you many wonderful things, Jennie!
S E davis
Earlier tonight, I commented on your post about your father’s death, not knowing your husband died. I then spent the entire evening getting to know you a little and your pain. My husband’s name is Mickey. He is 63. I am 53 and just found out I am in renal failure which is why I was searching the net for healthy food I can eat.
The love and devotion you share for your husband reflected in your blog was a precious reminder of all I have to be so very grateful for and for the man I married 33 years ago. So often we take our lives for granted.
I too have had a fear of death from early childhood, not just since I lost my Mom at 26. I too have come to the place of accepting and embracing the truth that we all die. I have done this with joy, being certain of the truth I mentioned in my earlier comment about your father’s death. I Know in my heart, not just Believe in my head.
I pray for you and for your search. It is the most important search we can make in life. Enjoy Paris, I was born there.
Blessings and Much Peace,