Whenever M witnessed someone behaving inappropriately, he would ponder the question of ignorance vs. arrogance. The first can be easily corrected if we believe the premise that all behavior is learned. But what about arrogance? In my opinion, arrogance is a learned behavior, as well, but a more deep rooted one. Arrogance is something we either learn from an example set by other important figures in our lives, or perhaps a way to shield ourselves from past unpleasant experiences. Perhaps arrogance is a perverse kind of self confidence, one riddled with insecurities?
These are just some rambling thoughts I’ve had on my mind since watching Martha Stewart dismiss the authenticity and value of bloggers with one fell swoop of her tongue. Whether someone’s action stems from ignorance or arrogance, we ultimately hold the power in the situation. The way we react is more important. Control of our own actions is the only guarantee and constant we can count on. This is a lesson I’ve been trying to really reinforce with my daughters lately.
How do I feel about Martha Stewart’s blanket statement to Bloomberg News? Well, certainly not surprised. Her single reply to the social media community was this: “Big hubbub about me not supporting bloggers. Martha Stewart loves most bloggers who are great friends and trusted allies”. Last I checked, there are a lot of people blogging around the world. I’d be surprised if she even knows 1% of them. Trusted allies? What does that even mean? It sounds a little threatening, as though anyone who questions her statements or authority are enemies.
So, what’s the best way to process such arrogance? Keep moving forward, and make the choices that are best for you. Put a positive spin on it, and use Martha’s statement to look closely at what you’re doing, and perhaps see if you can be doing it better. I’m going to admit, I agree a little with her statement about some of the recipes circulating out there, but the same truth holds for recipes from her very own cookbooks. These days I peruse her magazine and cookbooks for inspiration more than anything, having had too many missteps with her actual recipes to take a chance on using them as gospel.
Change is scary, and these days it seems to come at lightening speed in this digital age. My advice to Martha is accept the landscape is different, and decide how you want to grow with it. Oh, and you might want to admit you said something not very nice, offer up an apology—it’s the same strategy we use with our children when they have squabbles in the playground. The only difference is your playground has 2.8 million followers who are all ears.